Just read a post about someone’s reasons for not having sex. I’m all for doing what you must and doing what is most comfortable for ourselves. No pressure.
HOWEVER, I just want to clear some things up. With all due respect, of course. The post just got me thinking.
Below are the blogger’s comments/concerns- I will BOLD my responses:
- “the first times gonna HURT like HELL” - My first time didn’t hurt AT ALL.
- “we wont know what we’re doing” - this may be why it could hurt. if the guy just shoves it in there - no foreplay, no warming you up, no anything- then, yeah, it might hurt. but then again, it takes COMMUNICATION. if nothing is said to ease the way, you might experience some discomfort.
- “you bleed everywhere” - I didn’t bleed AT ALL.
- “giving birth hurts like hell as well” - EVERY birthing experience is different. My mother did not experience ANY pain when she birthed me because she had been dilating at such a slow rate that by the time she went in for a check-up, I was basically waving HELLO to the doc.
[these were just a few, the rest mostly related to not getting pregnant and being a slut]
My whole point of this is that EVERY EXPERIENCE IS OUR OWN. It cannot be compared to that of anyone else. As long as we do what we do for ourselves, not just to “give someone theirs,” and as long as we have the right mindset, that fear and that anxiety (society’s expectations) will fade into the background. In other words, if it doesn’t feel right, it most likely isn’t.
With passion, there must also be some form of reason, of control. Or else, what’s the point? If we are going to frolic about in lust, we must be aware of the consequences. But there are ALWAYS risks. With anything. Not just sex.
Sorry, I could go on forever about human instinct and intrapersonal growth.
But I shall stop.
